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Clinical psychologist and relationship therapist, Dr Jane Major, returns to talk gifts and giving in this seasonal episode. The topic was grand gestures and expensive gifts.

We discussed:

• What do we mean by a grand gesture or expensive gift? Typically one that seems disproportionate with the income or wealth of the giver or receiver;

• Martha’s discomfort with expensive gifts - ways they can be manipulative, set up a relationship as transactional instead of connected, buying a pass for unkind behaviour, reciprocity issues adn expectations;

• Jane’s experiences of giving expensive gifts as cover for low self-esteem;

• gifs in dating;

• gifts in nuclear and extended families;

• communicating about gift preferences;

• setting boundaries around gift giving;

• earning to trust and accept expensive gifts when given in healthy relationships.

You can find out more about Jane and her therapy practice at The Room Between.

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